if you cook ,

for me if I cook for someone, it would be nice if they did the dishes and cleaned up, and if they cooked then it would be nice and gentlemanly of me to do the dishes and clean up after the meal. I learned this watching my old unit head , doing dishes after parties and households. I admire and have learned this from him among other wonderful habits. I see cleaning the dishes, and the table, and putting away the sound equipment and chairs after clp as a way of saying thank you for all the work done in preparing the meals, and preparing the talks, music, food, and prayers for christian life programss at SFC and CFC.

I agree cooking is essential to marriage. Between 2 parents their must be enought money to buy groceries, and someone must be able to prepare enough food to feed and keep the couple and their kids alive and strong, so they can continue to serve the lord, without wondering if there is a place to sleep and food to eat for the rest of the day, week, or month.
I hate that feling of scrambling through desks and couches to see if I can round up enough coins to buy something off the dollar menu cause there are no groceries in the fridge. Have you ever had that feeling? Imagine doing that every day, that is when you decide if you are too proud to ask for help. And if help is offered to you are you willing to take it? Or do you say know I dont need help, or you wouldnt like me as a client, or stomp your feet, and cross your arms and say I dont want to change.

I have had assistance in getting to seattle and bethesday so I could participate in conference, and it changed my life both times. If I was too proud to admit it then I would never have heard those prayer sessions, or adoration, or the amazing talks and lessons, or built those friendships. The gifts I offer are prayer, fitness education, nutrition education, music: please ask if you need these or writing. But others have financial blessings and can sponsor people who need money and have a desire for service and god, but just dont have the funds to do it.

Pride will keep you at home, while your friends learn and experience a conference about hope in the lord in dallas, while you sit at home watching tv and doing the same old same old....

so if you want to feed yourself and your wife, and kids, then ask for recipes, learn them, and teach them to your wife and kids....and do the dishes with a full stomach and happy children with a smile on your face.

That is marriage , teamwork, putting food on the table , and preparing the table for the next meal....