submission between husbands and wives

I responded to this article: http://www.bustedhalo.com/features/PureSexPureLove69WivesObey.htm

The way it was explained to me is that husbands are supposed to be the priest or pastor to his family. And husbands are called to love their wives as jesus loves the church. And if a husband leads in this manner then his wife should be happy to support his leadership and decision making, because the decisions are led by god for the best interest of their relationship and their family and children.

But we all know that in most cases the wives have a large role in helping their husband with decisions that will impact the family. They say you can be right all the time, or you can be married. In a family the husband and wife must come to decisions together.

But if a man is a good leader and his decisions are based on teachings from the bible, then there is nothing wrong with the wife submitting to his decisions. In the dating process a woman can learn more about their potential husband and if he proves himself to be a leader that is faithful and fearful of the lord, then she can accept his proposal for marriage with confidence. But if this man they are dating regularly makes bad choices for the couple, then she would be better off marrying someone else.

The big problem in america is that so many men follow the ways of the world, like premarital sex, contraception, abortion, not going to church, partying every week and getting drunk regularly,or using drugs,money and popularity and power,or addictions to unhealthy food. It is difficult to find a man who is faithful to god in this modern age. That is why so many marriages end in divorce. Because many men are not faithful to god's teachings. One of my friends was telling me that it is very common for married men he had talked to: to have committed adultery while married. It made me fearful of what he might have done to his own wife, because he was already married and I was one of his groomsmen. But I asked him where he got his information about adultery being acceptable. And he said he got it from his coworkers and friends. And I told him I got my information from the bible. And then he just became quiet and dropped the subject.

I believe it is just as rare to find a man of faith for a husband as it is to find a beautiful woman who is also strong in her faith. When you find this rare person in your life, you should be thankful that god placed this wonderful person in your life.

I am not sure if this is what you were looking for, but I read your article and wanted to respond. Both of my grandparents had golden anniversaries before they died. So they have set a high standard for our family about perservering through the ups and downs of marriage, and really loving your partner for the rest of their life.